You’ll never see a pic of Kim by herself and most are with her family
Lot’s of pics of Kim and her many athletic events
Kim and her husband like to travel and vacation
- It’s summer and my wife is due any day now. I apologize – I just didn’t have the time for the audio or a transcript. Hope that doesn’t take anything away from the time I spent with Kim Dambach Doyle – she has an incredible story to tell.
- The interview started off with some excitement. Kim’s 16 year old son was testing for his pilot’s license (her dad was a former pilot). Kim was attentively conversing with me while simultaneously listening to air traffic control. I honestly don’t know how she was doing it; that’s a superpower in my book.
- Kim wasn’t on my radar until earlier this year. Even then, I didn’t make the connection with her actual identity because on FB she’s Kim Doyle, not Kim Dambach or Kim Dambach Doyle. You may be in the same position, in which case you should add her to your network of friends.
- I’ve stuck fairly rigorously to my original list so far in this project. Kim Dambach Doyle is one of the first exceptions I’ve made. What got my attention is that Kim ran the Boston Marathon this year. That’s at least two of us from the class of ’89 to participate in that event. I don’t think anyone would have guessed that of either of us.
- Kim’s voice sounds the same, but her manner of speaking is more confident and deliberate. I have to say she looks great, as well! How many of us can say we continue to look our best at 46?
- “Dr. Doyle” is a neuropsychologist. Very impressive! Feel free to do what I did and google what that means. She works with patients with Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, epilepsy, dementia, etc…
- Kim is serious about her fitness. She played soccer in HS, but come on…Orange Theory three times a week? V02 Max training on the track? Marathons? More on the trickle down to her family later.
- The call began as too many of these calls began with an apology. I’m pretty sure that Kim was the first girl to ever show any interest in me. And I…didn’t handle it well. That’s probably an understatement since both Kim and I list that experience as one of our five biggest regrets from high school. I’ve relived it over and over in my head since that day and wished I could go back in time and change. Thank you, Kim, for your forgiveness.
- A common Hollywood trope is that of the “butterfly” – the classmate that kept to themselves or maybe was even rejected in youth that emerges later in life as successful and accomplished. May I submit to you my nomination as the “butterfly” of the DHS class of 1989 as Kim Dambach Doyle! She is a sterling example of what psychologist’s refer to as the growth mindset.
- Kim and I probably shared more classes, but the one I remember is Dr. Bauer’s freshman Honors Biology course. A lot happened in that class. We had a teaching change (Mrs. McKee began as our teacher). On 1/28/86, that’s where we several of us learned about the Challenger disaster. Personally, I’ve never come so close to failing a class as I did for procrastinating on a flower pressing project. There was an incident where the science teachers coffee was poisoned with formaldehyde. Dr. Bauer made science fun.
- Kim remembered something that I had forgotten…Somehow in the midst of all of Dr. Bauer’s class, Kim Dambach and I managed to talk regularly…about stuff like religion. Looking back, how exactly did we manage to talk about religion in an otherwise well run classroom?
- Kim moved to Dickinson in the 5th That surprised me. As far as I knew, she had always been with us.
- Kim had a challenging upbringing. She was the youngest of eight children, with a seven year age gap between she and her nearest sibling. That’s basically like being Nicholas Bradford from “Eight is Enough”. Until her family settled in Dickinson, she moved around a lot because her father was in the military. Like many of us, she grew up in a rigid household with tension between the parents. Then to top it all off, her dad taught ROTC at the high school. Her response to this environment was largely to keep to herself, put her head down, and do what she needed to do to move on. Kim said something that summed up how many of us felt: “a lot going on at home that I didn’t want people to know about and talk about”. When faced with these situations, some kids push out make friends to find surrogate families. Kim narrowed her circle and wishes she had, in her words, spent more time getting to know her classmates.
- Kim describes her high school self almost exactly as I had written about her in preparation for the call; “hiding in plain sight”, I wrote, and just trying to blend in. It was a survival tactic at home and at school. I had no idea she was getting picked on.
- Kim describes herself as an adult as independent and more outgoing. She’s found her people as an adult…isn’t that what it’s all about?
- Kim went off to the University of Washington for nursing school, only to have to leave to come home to take care of her mother who developed and died of breast cancer. She later re-entered college and graduated from Hardin Simmons.
- She has a great story of her journey in faith. I’m not even going to try to recount it here, but it’s worth listening to Kim tell it or read in the transcript. I loved that we share a common affection for Pope Francis!
- With Kim excelling academically, I was curious how she didn’t end up in the G&T program. Was she somehow overlooked? Was she poor at testing? None of the above. She was offered the opportunity, but her parents declined it. Man, we really could have used another girl in those classes.
- A heartwarming story is that Kim and her husband adopted her great-niece, Madison. This couldn’t have been easy. Most people sit back and watch things happen but don’t act. Madison is lucky that Kim has such compassion and conviction.
- My absolute favorite part of the interview is asking Kim about what grievances of Kim as a mother her children would carry with them into adulthood. She didn’t even have to think about it. First, her insistence that her kids participate in long running events with her (some would constitute this as physical abuse). She also doesn’t permit her children to participate in social media. That’s what you’d have to call a tightly run ship!
- Like so many of us, Kim left Dickinson and never really looked back. She hasn’t stepped foot in Dickinson since 2000 when her mother passed away. She’s kept in touch with Karen Ganze, Frances Ovesny, and Jeremy Parks.
- I thought her recommendations for me to interview were interesting. Casey Fisher doesn’t want to be found. Rosalia Serbia…who could put me in touch with her?
- If Kim is here in the area again for the Boston Marathon, I will be there to cheer her on. What an amazing woman she has become!